Finding God in the Midst of Chaos
Sometimes the “messy middle” of life is loud , deployments, shifting jobs, moving homes, trying to keep the walls up when you feel yourself pulling away. That was my story. As a military spouse of over 20 years, mother and step-mother to four girls, navigating countless moves, deployments, and transitions, I found my faith stretched thin. I realized I wasn’t just caring for others, I was losing myself.
When I joined a health and wellness company during a season when my husband was deployed and I had two little ones under two, something inside me shifted. I began to see that motherhood, marriage, service , all of those roles were beautiful, but they weren’t the sum total of who I was. My faith got quiet. My identity blurred. I was going through the motions but felt disconnected from the One who made me. It was in that space I had to rebuild, not just for my sake, but for my family and for the woman beyond the cape I knew I was called to become.
Here’s what I learned about reconnecting with God when life is messy…
1) Begin with Small Rhythms of Faith
When everything else is loud, your faith doesn’t need to be loud too, just consistent. For me, that looked like waking up before my family for 30 minutes of devotional time and journaling. I didn’t have to dive into long prayers or complex theology. I simply sat with God, asked Him to meet me there, and wrote a sentence.
My advice to you…Set your alarm 10 minutes earlier than usual and ask God one simple question: “Lord, what are You doing in me today?” Then write down what comes. Repeat for three mornings.
2) Reconnect to Your Body as a Temple
God didn’t separate “spiritual” from “physical.” He created one body, one soul. I found healing through movement , not because I needed to “get my body back,” but because when I moved, I felt alive again. Take a class, walk, stretch, whatever your body responds to.
My advice to you…Choose one form of movement you’ll do this week (even 20 minutes). As you move, whisper: “God, thank You for this body You’ve given me. Use it for Your glory.”
3)Invite God Into the In-Between Moments
The mundane moments like loading the dishwasher, school drop-offs, or waiting for a meeting. Those are full of space for God. I started saying mini-prayers while commuting or folding laundry. It turned waiting into worship.
My advice to you…Every time you transition from one task to another, take a 30-second breath and say: “God, You are here.”
4) Find Your Circle
The women around you matter. They aren’t just accountability partners, they’re lifelines. My fitness classes turned community showed me that vulnerability doesn’t mean weakness. When I shared, “I’m not okay,” someone else said, “Me too.” We knew in that moment we were not alone.
My advice to you…Send a quick text to a friend: “Hey, you free this week? I’d love to just catch up.”
And if someone says that to you, let them know, “I’m here, let’s chat.”
5) Define Yourself by God’s Story, Not Life’s Roles
Being a mom, a spouse, an educator, a business-owner, all these are parts of me, but they don’t define me. The truth I cling to is: I am loved. I am chosen. I am His. When I embraced that, the “cape” fell away and I saw the woman God created.
My advice to you…Write down the roles you most commonly raise your identity in (e.g., “mom,” “teacher,” “wife”). Next to each, write: “But I am first…” and finish with a truth from Scripture such as: “He has called me by name.” (Isaiah 43:1)
My Invitation to You
If you’re in the messy middle, trying to balance faith, family, work, and identity, please remember: you are not alone, you are not forgotten, and your story is not over. God is meeting you in the in-between, not just on the mountaintop.
Let’s walk this together. Honest conversations. Constant reminders that you are more than the cape you wear.